Fantasies and Fictions

[janedavitt]

I wasn't planning on jumping in on the incest fics are wrong kerfuffle because -- well, because I've been kerfuffle-free since leaving the Buffy fandom, but kita0610 speaks for me here on the wider subject of fantasies being guilt-free zones.

And while I'm thinking about it...

You think you know what my fantasies are from my fics?

No. You really don't.

You think you have a vague idea of what turns me on from reading them?

Maybe. Maybe not. You sure as hell don't know what my actual sex life is like.

The thing is, when I'm writing a kink fic I'm quite capable of writing about something that doesn't do much for me.

Because it's not _about_ me.

I might think, ooh, I'd like Jack O'Neill to do that to me, but the crunch question when I'm writing, say, a Jack/Daniel smutfic is: would _Daniel_ like it and would Jack do it? Or vice versa.

They're the ones having sex, not me.

And, sure, sometimes there's an overlap, sure sometimes I take something I like, consider it, and think, yeah, they'd like it, too, let's use it... but not always.

And just as I can write convincingly about a place I've never been, I can write a kink that isn't mine by using my imagination.

That's where the 'fiction' bit comes in.

I've never understood why people assume because you're writing about sex it has to be something you've done or like doing. That assumption wouldn't be made about any other genre.