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I splashed out and bought this in hardcover as a treat. David and I have read them from book 2 so I can get away with it as two people reading it halves the price. What? That's logical! I have been thinking Anita is getting a bit samey, a bit talky but I'm enjoying it so far.
One thing bugged me though. At the start, Anita's dealing with a woman who needs her husband bringing back. She comments,"I called her _Mrs_ Bennington at her insistence. When I'd referred to her as _Ms_ Bennington, she'd nearly bitten my head off. She was not one of your liberated women. She liked being a wife and mother. I was glad for her, it meant more freedom for the rest of us."
This raised my hackles. I've never been 'Ms' and I never minded becoming a 'Mrs' but does that make me less liberated, a traitor to my sex? If Anita was responding a little OTT because the woman was rude, instead of just saying politely, "No, I prefer 'Mrs'", then fine but I didn't get that impression.
Freedom isn't a finite thing and it isn't defined by labels, it comes from within. If I choose to call myself, 'Mrs' and I do, then that is my right, just as the two friends I have who continue to use their maiden name after marriage are within their rights. I will not be told what to do based on someone else's ideas of what contitutes a 'liberated' female. And I'm sick of 'girl' being a four letter word. :end rant:
One thing bugged me though. At the start, Anita's dealing with a woman who needs her husband bringing back. She comments,"I called her _Mrs_ Bennington at her insistence. When I'd referred to her as _Ms_ Bennington, she'd nearly bitten my head off. She was not one of your liberated women. She liked being a wife and mother. I was glad for her, it meant more freedom for the rest of us."
This raised my hackles. I've never been 'Ms' and I never minded becoming a 'Mrs' but does that make me less liberated, a traitor to my sex? If Anita was responding a little OTT because the woman was rude, instead of just saying politely, "No, I prefer 'Mrs'", then fine but I didn't get that impression.
Freedom isn't a finite thing and it isn't defined by labels, it comes from within. If I choose to call myself, 'Mrs' and I do, then that is my right, just as the two friends I have who continue to use their maiden name after marriage are within their rights. I will not be told what to do based on someone else's ideas of what contitutes a 'liberated' female. And I'm sick of 'girl' being a four letter word. :end rant: